OK, so I think I have the conclusive evidence I needed to show they are just not compatible. I reinstalled my AGM battery (Chenged the RED wire to (-)) and hey presto everything works as it should. On loading the AGM the solar panels kick in and cover the demand. With them off and the engine running it takes all the current it needs from the alternator. Rather a lot of time went in to finding that out. Until my RENOGY DCDC charger arrives I'll reconnect the Li battery and see if I find any state of where the CTEC is happy to cut in. SOLVED!!!!!