So I would just leave the battery switch on "van" and leave the charger on. That way all your 12v habitation is coming from the leisure battery and when you have EHU most of it will be coming from the PMS3.Just spoke with the converter and he said the Dometic fridge is wired to the leisure battery and permanently on. I can turn the switch off inside the fridge and it will turn off the compressor but the light stays on unless I pull the fuse on PMS3. The habitation lights work with the charger off and switched to ‘van’
Yes, I have a water pump which again works with charger off but switch set to ‘van’
Your biggest load is the fridge so get in the habit of turning that off when not actively camping now you know where the switch is.