As a suggestion, on 8.5 rims in the past I've run 245/45/20s these are 102Y load rated and would sit nice on the 8.5 rim. If there is no intention of going lower than 40mm then the 245/45 would offer a compromise between width and road comfort. However rolling radius is a big step up from say a 255/45/18 which is the standard sportline alloy/tyre combination sizing offered by VW. 255/35/20s are the same rolling radius as a 255/45/18 so no issues with speedo readings, but again, comfort would be the compromise albeit 255/35s have a 6mm sidewall increase from my 235/35s on a 8.5 rim. From experience, tyres can be a nightmare to get right and I must of bought at least half a dozen sets in the past 2yrs for a variety of wheels sizes and widths so don't rush into purchasing any until you are sure on what meets your needs, comfort, looks, practicality...my 235/35s look good to me (not all like it I'm sure) however I wince every time I see the slightest pot hole, I've curbed 3 of the 4 alloys and taking the family mountain biking scares me driving through the country park carparks and there is a lack of comfort compared to a 40/45 profile tyre
@andybanes - it was good to meet up with you this morning, this post may of confused you more and not been very helpful but what i'm trying to say is you need to consider how the van is being used and with the alloys at ET45 to wide a tyre would only rub on the inner arch liner. if it was me I'd go the 255/35.