Well here's a turn up for the books, I've only gone and cracked it (sort of)
I have deadlocking (sort of)
After the disapoointment of the failure with the door control module recoding I decided to trawl through google to see if there was any mention, and eventually came across this page
Coding & Adaptations | OBDeleven on the OBDeleven forum, and particularly the post by oberon who had identified some previously undocumented bit settings - including Safelock!
I'd put the battery back in the car but immediately ran out in the pouring rain and grabbed it back out again and headed to the van.
This was the important section
Byte 00 Bit 0 Selective Central Locking (Single Door Locking) active
Byte 00 Bit 1 Central Locking WITHOUT SAFE-Function (Zentralverriegelung OHNE SAFE-Funktion verbaut)
Byte 00 Bit 2 Central Locking 2-motor-locks installed (Zentralverriegelung 2-Motoren-Schlösser verbaut)
Byte 00 Bit 3 Auto-Unlock (Unlocking when Removing the Ignition Key)
Byte 00 Bit 4 Auto-Lock (Automatic Locking above 15 km/h)
Byte 00 Bit 5 Central Locking installed
Byte 00 Bit 6 Central Locking via cylinder lock active (Zentralverriegelung über Schliesszylinder aktiv)
Byte 00 Bit 7 Central Locking 1-motor-locks with SAFE Function installed (Zentralverriegelung 1-Motoren-Schlösser mit SAFE Funktion verbaut)
So I initially coded byte 0 to include the Safelock bits, and was disappointed to find no difference yet again, before realising that the bits were numbered R to L and not L to R (yeah I know RTFM). So this time I coded it as 11111101 and did an output test to the driver's door. This time, it didn't even lock the door, but the lock did click. I didn't want to have the battery out of the car too long so decided I'd go back to it tomorrow night and locked the van with the remote, reached through the window and was immediately able to unlock the door. I then thought to myself it would be a laugh if the folding mirrors worked so pressed the comfort close by holding the remote. This time the lock went clunk again and the button seemed to pull down ever so slightly further. Unlocked it, sat in the drivers seat and press the remote button twice - and it deadlocked! As I pulled the interior handle the lock button went up and then back down when I released but would not open, whereas the other 2 doors that have not had the locks changed opened on 2 pulls as before. I've checked it multiple times and it's definitely deadlocking.
But it's not behaving in the way you all know Safelock to behave
1) There is no message on the MFD regarding Safelock
2) I have to press the button once to lock and a second time to deadlock - exactly the opposite behaviour...
3) I have to press the unlock button twice to unlock the drivers door
So I'm not there yet, but I've taken a massive leap forward today