You should be able to hear the relay 'click' once when you engage reverse, that will tell you if it is switching off the reverse feed correctly. Looking at your wiring diagram above it looks mostly correct but as
@Deaky said its hard to verify as its hard to know whats connected at the box and also some of the wires I suspect are the visual feed rather than power.
I could sketch up a diagram of my set up if would be any help?
worth also checking your fuses, to rule that out, as you said it was working fine before.