Thanks I pulled the relay out and sure enough there’s another wire that’s ignition positive. Testing the engine battery supply cable it’s positive. Oddly I’m getting nothing after the relay and 80A fuse, even with engine running.If you mean the engine run signal that drives the split charge relay it's just a thin wire from BCM to the relay socket terminal that I had the blue wire in the photo earlier.
Seems I can relatively easily disconnect the relay and use the cables into a new Viktron dc dc.